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Allah has entitled husband and wife to certain rights, made it incumbent upon both of them to discharge their duties and encourages them to engage in anything that is bound to promote marital life and preserve it. Indeed, they are both responsible for the welfare of the family and neither of them should demand the other to do something beyond their capacity, as the Qur’an states, “And women have rights similar to those of men over them to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them.” Quran Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:228 Therefore, tolerance and kindness are required to create a prosperous life and help build a strong family.


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Obedience in Kindness

Allah has placed men in charge of women, being responsible for their maintenance, guidance and general care, due to the characteristics with which He has endowed them; in addition to the money they spend to support them. As the Qur’an states, “Men have charge of women because Allah has preferred the one above the other and because they spend their wealth on them.” Quran Surah An-Nisaa’, 4:34


Attentiveness to His Sexual Needs

A Muslim woman must be attentive to her husband’s sexual needs and is recommended to beautify herself for him. If she refuses to respond to his legitimate sexual advances, she would be committing a monstrous sin, unless there is a legitimate excuse, such as being on her menses, making up an obligatory fast she has previously missed or being sick.

The Prophet said, “If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses, and then he spends the night angry with her, the angels will continue to curse her until the morning.” Sahih Al-Bukhari 3065; Saheeh Muslim: 1436


Not Allowing Anyone He Does not Like in His House

This is his right which she must respect. The Prophet said, “It is not lawful for a woman to observe a voluntary fast without the permission of her husband, nor is it lawful for her to allow anyone to enter his house without his permission.” Sahih Al-Bukhari: 4899


Not Leaving the House without His Permission

One of the husband’s rights is that she is not allowed to leave the house without his permission, whether she wants to go out for a personal or general need.



A woman is recommended to serve her husband in kindness by preparing meals for him and undertaking other household chores.


Concealing bed secrets

Neither spouse should talk about their sex lives with friends and family members.  It is considered inappropriate, indecent, and shameful.  Both should respect each other’s privacy in this regard. The most wicked or worst among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgment is the men who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret. Sahih Muslim 1437


See also

Marriage in Islam; Ideal Muslim wife; Fundamentals of happy marriage; Different roles of women in Islam; Prophet as Ideal husband; Rights and responsibility of husbands and wives; Treating wife;



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