RIGHTS OF PARENTS
Islamic rights are many, among the most important of which is the Parent’s rights. Islam pays special attention to the family and encourages love and respect within it. The parents are the base and foundation of the family, hence honouring one's parents is one of the best deeds and one of the most beloved actions to Allah سبحانه و تعالى.
Honouring one’s parents is one of the greatest means of drawing closer to Allah سبحانه و تعالى and one of the most important obligations, and one of the most beloved deeds to Allah سبحانه و تعالى after faith, especially honouring one’s mother, because of her great rights and because of her efforts and kindness. This is achieved by obeying them, respecting them, being humble towards them, treating them kindly, spending on them, praying for them, upholding ties of kinship with those to whom one is related through them.
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents” Qur’an.Surah Israa’ 17:23
‘Worship Allah (The God) and join not any partners with Him; and be kind to your parents…” Qur’an.Surah Nisa 4:36
We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth”. Qur’an.Surah Ahqaf 46:15
Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reported that a person came to Allah‘s Messenger ﷺ and said: Who among the people is most deserving of a fine treatment from my hand? He said: Your mother. He again said: Then who (is the next one)? He said: Again it is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Holy Prophet) said: Again, it is your mother. He (again) said: Then who? Thereupon he said: Then it is your father. Sahih Al Bukhari vol. 8:2, Sahih Muslim 6180
Abu ‘Amr ash-Shaybani said, “The owner of this house (and he pointed at the house of ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ud) said, “I asked the Prophet Muahhamad ﷺ which action Allah سبحانه و تعالى loves best. He replied, ‘Prayer at its proper time.’ ‘Then what?’ I asked. He said, ‘Then kindness to parents.” I asked, ‘Then what?’ He replied, ‘Then jihad in the Way of Allah سبحانه و تعالى.’” He added, “He told me about these things. If I had asked him to tell me more, he would have told me more.” Adab Ul-Mufrad, Book 1, Hadith 1
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ ascended the minbar and said: “Ameen, Ameen, Ameen.” It was said to him, “O Messenger of Allah, why did you do that?” He said, “Jibreel said to me, ‘May Allah سبحانه و تعالى rub his nose in the dust, that person who Ramadaan comes and his sins are not forgiven,’ and I said, ‘Ameen’. Then he said, ‘May Allah rub his nose in the dust, that person who lives to see his parents grow old, one or both of them, but he does not enter Paradise,’ and I said, ‘Ameen’. Then he said, ‘May Allah سبحانه و تعالى rub his nose in the dust, that person in whose presence you are mentioned and he does not send blessings upon you,’ and I said, ‘Ameen.’” Ibn Khuzaima 1888
The Muslim is enjoined to treat his parents well and honour them even if they are disbelievers in Islam. It is not permissible for a Muslim to disobey them or treat them badly in word and deed. But that does not mean that he should obey him/her in matters that are sinful or show approval of the disbelieve that he/she believes in.
Allah سبحانه و تعالى said in Qur'an: We have enjoined on man and woman kindness to parents; but if they (either of them) strive (to force) thee to join with Me anything of which thou hast no knowledge, obey them not’” Qur’an.Surah Ankabut 29: 8
IBN JAREER AL-TABARI رحمت اللهSAID:
And if your parents strive with you to make you join in worship of Allah سبحانه و تعالى anyone alongside Allah سبحانه و تعالى, when you know that Allah سبحانه و تعالى have no partner – for He has no partner, exalted be He far above that then do not obey them in what they want you to associate with Me. “but behave with them in the world kindly” and obey them in that which has nothing to do with the relationship between you and your Lord, and does not involve sin. TAFSEER AL-TABARI, 10/139
IBN KATHEER رحمت الله SAID:
if they strive hard to make you follow them in their religion, then do not accept that from them, but do not let that prevent you from keeping good company with them in this world, i.e., by being kind to them. “and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience” means: the path of the believers. TAFSEER IBN KATHEER 6/337
Narrated By Anas bin Malik رضي الله عنه: Allah’s Apostle ﷺ mentioned the greatest sins or he was asked about the greatest sins. He said, “To join partners in worship with Allah; to kill a soul which Allah has forbidden to kill; and to be undutiful or unkind to one’s parents.” The Prophet ﷺ added, “Shall I inform you of the biggest of the great sins? That is the forged statement or the false witness.” Shu’ba (the sub-narrator) states that most probably the Prophet said, “the false witness.” Sahih Al Bukhari Vol 8:08
Abu Harairah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:”Three supplications are accepted , there is no doubt in them (about them being accepted): The supplication of the oppressed, the supplication of the traveler, and the supplication of his father against his son.”Sunan Tirmidhi Vol. 4: 1905