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FAMILY ETIQUETTES IN ISLAM


Family Etiquettesis all about doing the right things at home so that people are happy,relationships are thriving and growing, and having a safe, peaceful home.The family is that brick which forms the foundation of a society. It is composed of individuals that have permanent relations established between them.

 

Most importantly, it possesses almost a majority of the different kinds of personal relations. Because of this, there must be certain etiquettes placed in order to control and regulate these relations. This is such that it can be maintained in the best possible manner, and so that it can generate and produce its proper fruits. Family relations consist of the relationship between the spouses from one perspective, the relationship between the parents and the children from a second perspective, and the relationship between the children themselves from a third perspective. Some of the family etiquettes are given below.

 

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Importance of the family

Islam places much emphasis on the family unit.  The ties of kinship are so important that they are to be upheld, irrelevant of whether all family members are Muslim or not. [1]

 

Qur’an

Allah (Glory be to Him) has made this the etiquette that is required of the Muslim with all people. Allah (Glory be to Him) says “The good deed and the evil deed cannot be equal. Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allah orders the faithful believers to be patient at the time of anger, and to excuse those who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend. [Qur’an.Surah Fussilat 41:34-36]

 

“… and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of ) the wombs (kinship)…” [Qur’an.Surah Nisa’ 4:1]

 

Hadith

Narrated by Aisha (R) and Abdullah ibn Abbas (R) : Allah's Messenger (May Allah honour Him and grant Him Peace)said, "The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.” Tirmidhi 3252           

 

The Messenger of Allah (May Allah honour Him and grant Him Peace)said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” Sahih Al-Bukhari 5986 and Sahih Al Muslim 2557 [2]

 

List of etiquettes

1. Ethics of Seeking Permission: Enter not houses other than your own without first announcing your presence and invoking peace upon the folk thereof. You have to ask permission. 

2.  Ethics of Greeting (Salam): Islam has encouraged the custom of greetings among the members of Society because it leads to love and friendship.

3.  Ethics of Sitting: It is not appropriate to ask someone to leave his sitting place for someone else. Never talk to a friend privately in the presence of a third person

4.  Ethics of Gathering: Islam respects the feeling of people who gather at a place to make gathering desirable and repel all that causes people to hate gathering.

5. Etiquette of Conversation: Listen to the speaker without interrupting him until he finishes talking.  Talk clearly so that the listener may understand you.

6. Etiquette of Joking: A joke should not involve any hurt or insult to any Muslim.

7. Dining Ethics: Start eating with the name of Allah (Glory be to Him). 

8. Etiquette of Condolence: Condolence has been prescribed to console the dead person’s family, relieve their sorrows and alleviate their distress.

9.  Etiquette of Sleeping: Mention the name of Allah (Glory be to Him) and lie on your right side. [3]

 

References

[1] [3] http://www.iris.org.nz/family.php

[2] http://islamqa.com/en/ref/4631

 

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